Since the beginning of time, I suppose we as humans has wrestled and fought with ourselves, trying to find the perfect key to understanding relationships. Especially the relationship of marriage. I don’t think there is only one key, I think there are lots of keys. We just have to find the right key that fits the lock to our specific marriage problems.
Each and every marriage exists in it’s own little world of the two of us united. What works for one marriage, may not work for another and etc.
Over time there are some keys that really becomes apparent. We just don’t see them because we are looking outside of ourselves for these answers. Every problem that a human experiences comes with it’s own built-in answer. The answer is inside of us all the time, waiting for us to reflect within the inner mind to do a self discovery.
Have you ever wondered, why does a Doctor ask us so many indepth questions about our signs and symptoms of a malady or a disease? It is because the Doctor has to get you to open the window to your mind, so that they can look inside and do a diagnostic of your condition, to be able to treat the problem.
Now, if you applied the same diagnostic treatment upon yourself, and opened your own window so you can see inside, you would most likely arrive with an affirmative and correct answer for your problem. Answer your own questions thru inner reflections of your mind. The answer is always with you, inside you, not out there somewhere. Ok?
Let us begin examining a few keys that has been diagnosed and proved highly effective, as the prognosis looks good for the long term, in opening the doors to our inner minds concerning the marriage problem. This writing is dealing with the problem before it happens as well as an ongoing problematic situation within your own present marriage. Take these keys and optimise them for your own benefit, some keys may be modified to fit your own particular situation. Nothing is cut and dried here. This is speculative and critical thinking being utilized to arrive at the correct key to fit the proper lock.
The keys: I don’t know if these are really secrets, maybe they are built in personal traits within ourselves that we use to have a happy marriage..
First, a person must know themselves at a great depth, their own character or personality must not be a stranger.
Be kind to yourself first, then look for kindness in the future partner. When these powers are combined you have mutual kindness without force.
The relationship cannot be built upon a fantasy or good sex or a mythological foundation.
We must know from within that the mate we wish to spend eternity with must be a close mirror reflection of ourselves. I repeat>A relationship cannot be based upon sex, and good times being the sole reason we want to share an intimate lifetime relationship with another. The values must be based upon the real causes, like respect, honor, empathy, personal self-esteem, personal space, trust and love, to get the desired effects of love returned to you in all of it’s beautiful glory.
Try not to base it on lies, deceit, possesiveness, jealousy, suspiciousness, because all of these things will reflect hate and discontent, and distrust at an early or later date in the time continum.
Basically what you start out with is what you reap in the end. Be open and conducive to ones personal growth, mental and physical. Be able to see the mental competitive and combative grounds that also cause resentment, although constructive critisim is always useful, be kind and gentle to the other mind and implore upon it as to why it is acting this way. Get to know your partner.
Abuse, both mental and physical is not a good thing, it’s bad. Try to nurture and produce peace and harmony, allow yourself to listen to your partner’s heart and mind. Ego trips cause disruption, which the male partner has to learn to use for positive effects, not to dissmiss the other partner as weak, but as a protective tool. Our society offers little help these days for married couples, as the battle lines were formed decades ago within the laws of our lands. The battle lines cause us to blame the other partner for our own short-comings. Usually the ones close to you get the undeserved blame, we must take responsibility for our own actions.
Man and Woman were made a little different from each other. I believe that difference is Mother Nature’s (God”s) way for us to be attracted to each other and to guarantee and assure the survival of the human species on terra firma (earth).
Most of all, be yourself and to yourself be true. Oh man and Oh woman, know thyself, for within thee is the greatest of treasures. Make the most of your life in a very good way, as time is very short for us all and waits for no one.
Miracles are acts of love, let’s try and create one. With these thoughts in mind we can have that wonderful marriage that we have dreamed of. Whatever a man thinketh, whatever a woman thinketh can be acheived. Mankind cannot think of anything that they cannot do, we are without limit, we are free. Make it right.
Our personal freedoms, spiritual and moral values are being loss or snatched from us on a daily basis, minute by minute. Recognize these keys, these truths, and free your mind from oppression that lurks outside of us trying to get in and destroy us from within. Within is our core, our center, our foundation.
Understanding is the greatest thing in this world, to seek and persue peace on all levels. Help one another, just be there when the going gets rough. Be there when the pain gets to the point it is unbearable. Just be there. Remain flexable, learn to bend and move with the wind. Don’t be too rigid as you will surely snap when the wind blows too hard>>I hope you understand. A marriage is not just another contract, it is a spiritual connection of the hightest order, bound under Grace. Peace!