A Letter To My Son: The problem with life.
One fine day, as my son and I was discussing the frustrations and twists and turns of his life and how the world seems to not care about anyone anymore. He had just come back from a tour of Iraq in 2009. I hope the world doesn’t mind my sharing those precious words for my son with you. You see, if you have a son or daughter, trying to grow up in this uncertain world, there may be something useful herein that you may be able to avail yourself of, and give to one of them a heartfelt moment. Don’t miss any moments to talk to each other, in the early years. You will one day wish that you did. You and your child will both lose if you do not do that little thing.
The problems with life.
Well, that’s just the way life works son. Sometimes we have no control over certain events that come our way. We just have to do our best with whatever it is that is presented unto us on a daily basis.
The thoughts and plans that you have in your mind right now, may not work out as planned when you get home from Iraq. Your agreed upon plans that you discussed deeply with your girlfriend or family memebers will not work out without their help. Juan, you see, fate is a strange thing. You give yourself beautiful thoughts, to dream while you are away from your familiar realities……but, when you actually get back home, fate moves those thoughts and ideas and dreams away from you thru distraction, and you then pursue another wayward objective, totally different from that which you originally planned. The reality of doing something is much more difficult to follow thru with, than the idea of a dream. A dream is beautiful and free and easy, reality is difficult and costly and hard, therefore you abandon your original thoughts/dreams for new ideas and new dreams when you get back home. Thoughts and ideas change like the weather. Only your best thoughts with a greater-good as a catalyst will come true in the real world, your other thoughts will be like smoke in the wind, evaporated into nothingness.
Have you noticed your own thoughts? Have you had great lofty ides as to what you wanted to do while away from home? And then when you come home, non of these ideas seem to work, you find something totally different to do. or do nothing at all? It seems like you are just going around and around in circles, running into an invisible wall, getting nothing done? What’s the matter? Once again, blame it on FATE? If you do, then fate is working inside you. You can’t get rid of it, but you can manage it and control it and keep it on the outside of your mind, at a distance. You have to establish your very own balance of power, that is uniquely yours in your lifetime in this world. Having said that, don’t blame the game, blame the player. It’s your life, change the way the game is played, create your own method, your own uniqueness and live your life.
I, me, myself, am subjected to fate on a daily basis like everyone else. Most people don’t even have a name to identify the thing that is causing them to have empty dreams, or dreams that seem to fade away into nothing or is taken away by other distractions. Stop allowing yourself to be distracted. Stop making important business decisions when your mind is in a state of emotional flux. Make your important decisions when you are calm and is in a controlled intellectual state of mind. The emotional states of mind in man can be driven by ego and vanity, and cause you to make unsound judgements and critical errors that you probably would be able to see if you are in control of your thoughts and take the time to think it out. You see the ego do not like to fail, it loves to exploit and do wanton and dumb and incorrect things. Egotistical human’s do not take the time to think, they just react to stimulation without real thought, and get themselves into trouble with the Laws and everyone and everything else. Remain vigilant of your own thoughts and where they are about to take you into the future. Learn to see from within, using insight, instinct, mother-wit, intelligence. When you embark onto a new seemingly fun thing, be careful there too, because having fun has it’s own built in responsibilities that will trap you in the future. The fun thing will disregard the prospect of warning you, that you are having such a wonderful time with your new adventure, that you throw caution to the wind and run head-long into trouble in the near future. Pay attention to laws, both Legal and Spiritual Laws. Strengthen your resolve, focus your mind and master it, afterall it is your mind to have and to control. Isn’t it?
You just have to keep on keeping on, and work for a greater good in your life. I am tired of most things now, I just want peace in all things that I do. I would be content with that, to live a simple uncomplicated life now. I can feel the days and years getting shorter, at a slow and gradual pace. But to actually have that peace I so desire, I am going to have to fight for it, no one is going to hand it to me on a silver platter, I have to earn it. I am not naive, I have no illusions about that. I must earn that respect from others to have that which I cherish so much. Now my world is coming into reality a little bit at a time. I have the invisible key, to open that invisible door, that only I can see. Can you see it? Not yet? You will one day, just open up your mind, and keep the faith. Faith is Hope for things not seen. ;- )
I am not sorry for how this economy is screwing up my life, so don’t you feel sorry for me. I have done ok with my life. I am just so tired to still have to do so much for some of those that missed the mark in life. My Soul and Spirit is just fine. The real world is where the tiredness is. I have done more in my life that many people. I cannot look back at my past life and say “I wish I could go back twenty years and start my life all over, I would do this or that.” I have already done it. I am happy with me.
Therefore, I want you to keep on growng and getting smarter and smarter each day. Keep love in your heart wherever you are. You have the tools, you just have to learn how to use them, just like I had to learn. You have everything that you own right with you all the time, inside yourself. Your car, a house, a computer, is only temporary, and good for useful purposes. But, even though you bought it, you are only a user, it too will only fall into disrepair and fade away, like dust in the wind. Your body is all that you really own in this world, and it too is only temporary, but it will outlast all the other things that you buy. Also, people can sue you and take away all that you own. They can even damage your body and kill it, but give your heart and soul to the ONE that gave it to you, and no human or Devil can take that away from you. You will have acheived victory over your life, and prospered accordingly to what you set forth in your heart and mind.
Take care of that body and mind Son. Keep your head high. Life can be unforgiving and merciless, life takes no prisoners. You can see where my mind is, and hopefully, later on down the road you will look back and see what I have been telling you, and laugh out loud. On another day you will look at my writings, a treasure trove of spiritual and actual words that you lived by and prospered as you saw it in your dreams, and say ” Inside myself – I am ok- I have me- I am free, my creator is with me.” ‘Nuff said, peace and love, your Dad.